I’ll admit a man with a charming sensibility who can so accurately empathize with my ever changing mood is attractive. But is this someone I can stand to live with the rest of my life? My house only has room for one diva in it. If he understands my emotional breakdown it’s probably because he’s recently had one. I know what you’re thinking, “all men aren’t the same”. That’s debatable. Men either understand their partner well or they don’t–they can verbalize their emotions well or they can’t. The major differentiation between them is their willingness to adapt their personality to their mate’s and/or valiantly attempt to communicate more productively. It’s not a criticism, it’s a fact. And let’s be honest with ourselves ladies. Do we really expect a man to be able to comment on our weight but not our meals? Does such a man exist? The truth is, inevitably we chose one or the other type of man, but long for both. Frankly, a man who can’t quite verbalize how he feels about my ramblings in general is A-O-K with me. So he doesn’t “get” yesterday’s episode of Grey’s Anatomy or the fact that you have been crying for two days over nothing; it means he’s not watching unrealistic, hyper-fantasized t.v. shows and able to hold you while you’re blubbering. Mr. Wickham will always catch your eye, but Mr. Darcey will inescapably win your heart.

“The first duty of love is to listen.”-Paul Tillich


In a world where the definition of ourselves is found within ourselves, it is no wonder to me that it is within our dreams that we “heal” ourselves as well. I read an article today in Women’s magazine about interpreting dreams. The writer believes that we should pay close attention to them, because they are silent red flags as to what issues bother us the most–issues that, in a conscious mind, we can’t seemingly resolve. The writer of this article actually encourages people to dream. She believes that if you repeat in your mind over and over again what question you need to have answered, right before you sleep, you will dream about it…and possibly answer it. She also encourages you to keep a paper and pen handy next to your bed. This is so that at the first time you awake, from this dream, you will write down as much as you can recall. She said, it is vitally important to write down our dreams, because if we fall back asleep it is very unlikely we will remember what happened after the next REM cycle. It is important to note that, the reason why it is more likely to solve said problems whilst sleeping is because our inhibitions are at rest and we can wholly face an issue sans reticence.

Interesting…Let’s see if this actually works!

There are times in life where you catch yourself saying something you soon regret. For a moment the part of your brain that is insensitive to other’s feelings, disconnects from the part of your heart that steadily reminds you to improve others through the improvement of yourself. You’ve made your point in hope of an instant satisfactory feeling. But instead of satisfaction all you feel is emptiness. In this moment you wonder how valuable is being right, when it so deeply wounds someone else? How is it the same tongue that speaks optimism and encouragement possesses the same power to destroy a person’s confidence or distort their view of another person? What right do we have to act on this power and assert our words into somebody else’s life without any caution as to their indeterminable repercussions? This part of the ego is most dangerous. It is the most powerful, violent, reparative and stigmatic. Take care what you say, when you say it and more importantly how you say it. Self-restraint in a moment of arrogance may, in the long run, prove to be more beneficial than anything you could ever voice.

I am as sure of true love at times as I am of the existence of an uncorrupt goverment; from a passionate fervency to a simmering doubt. What of love can we learn from one another is my quest. Conditions, untrustworthiness, impatience and dependency? Where at do we arrive at what we perceive is love? Can it come from within us, when we are so selfish by nature? Is that not the antithesis of what love is? If then, it does not come from deep within ourselves, the desire from an outside source comes from where? Our choice to imitate such a perfect existence, in order to form serenity, in the midst of chaos? Or is it the choice we make despite ourselves with the hope of saving ourselves? You see, life is not fully lived not having loved another person. Is love our attempt to live? Do we endlessly chase this mystery in order to find our own peace? Is love, then, peace with ourselves and another; both in accordance living to save each other? And is it all so romantic? Seems rather a desperate effort, to distract ourselves with romance. After all, it is our salvation we are talking about.

L’Œuvre: Pittsburgh

April 13, 2010

Of innovation and resilience, Pittsburgh embodies both. It knows how to claw out of the dark age and illuminate a knew generation of artists……

L’Œuvre: Communication

April 13, 2010

I have always known that people speak without speaking. Nonverbal communication can at times be more powerful than verbal communication alone. What is this language? How is it a language?

From the moment a baby opens his or her eyes they begin to see the world around them. They observe what surrounds them. For the first time their life isn’t just about what they feel, yet what they see. And when what they see changes, they know it immediately. Their reaction to this first change of scenery is the beginning of communication–the origin of an underground language. The language that is spoken without any voice.

To speak of language without investigating every part of communication and seeking out it’s origins is to ignore speaking at all–to dismiss what language truly is……